Bad sex hurting your relationship?
The key to a good relationship is trust, communication, commitment and love. But get real! What about the sex? Even if you are in love with your partner, can you stay with him if the sex is not good enough?
If you are in a relationship that is crumbling under the pressure of dissatisfying sex, carefully consider these five points and decide if it can last.
Can you live without it?
Believe it or not, many couples actually do. They understand that their relationship is important enough for them to stick it out with each other, even through the not-very-fun sex.
Can a doctor help?
According to sexologist Dr Hiten Shah, sex is a kind of behaviour. "Behaviour can be learned and unlearned. A sexologist will help you understand each other's sexual needs better," he says. Moreover, a sexologist does not study just your sex life but also your relationship.
Do you need to learn more?
Many newly married couples face this problem. Though very much in love, they lack basic knowledge of sex. If lack of knowledge is the only problem affecting your sex life, you could do with some education. Get a book, consult a doctor and work on overcoming your inhibitions.
Are you stressed?
Financial trouble or problems at home or work can stress you out. And stress kills your sexual appetite. So, are you or he stressed? That could be the problem. Re-evaluate your life, to figure out the problem.
Is it something deeper?
Are you two incompatible? Is it that you two can't/haven't connected emotionally? Visit a sexologist to discover if any psychological issues are coming in the way of your sex life.
All relationships have some problems and a bad sex life will definitely not make it any better. If you have tried hard enough to make it work but cannot get past the bad sex, maybe it's time to quit.
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