Get out of your own way!

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There is a joke that 'marriage is like eating out in a restaurant - the food on the other table looks more appetising!!'

Sometimes we feel life is like that. We look at someone's lifestyle and want that for us, we envy someone who is happy and without a care in the world, we wish we could be this, we wish we could be that.......the list can go on and on.

Nothing wrong with that. But have you wondered why YOU cannot be THAT person? Maybe you are. Someone who is lesser privileged than you envies you, wants your lifestyle, and wants to be like you. But you still feel YOU are not THAT person.

So....

What can you do? Picture a situation like this - you are in the middle of the road and a vehicle is fast approaching you. What do you do? Get out of its way, right? Precisely what you need to do with your life too.

At times we are so self critical, we feel inadequate or imperfect about our self or our lifestyle; we dwell on these negative feelings for so long or so much that we stop ourselves from moving forward - we stand in our own way!

"The past cannot be changed; the future is yet in your power."

Don't be too hard on yourself - nobody is perfect. If you didn't fail you would not be able to taste the sweetness when success comes to you. And whatever it is you have succeeded at will be more rewarding, fulfilling and invaluable.

Don't try to justify past behaviour. Perhaps you behaved like that since it was the right thing to do at that time. It may be irrelevant now. As we grow older we mature, we shed some of our past beliefs and attitudes, we blend in with the present.

Don't underestimate or undersell yourself. Feel worthy of yourself. You are the best judge of your abilities and capabilities. "The minute you settle for less than what you deserve, you get even less than what you settled for."

Don't concentrate on your weaknesses and inadequacies. Concentrate on your strengths. . Think back to those times when you came out a winner out of a difficult situation. What gave you the strength? Trust your instinct and take the risk.

If you do what you have always done you will get what you have always got - this is life coaching truism. Do something different or differently. Everyone can see the obvious; be different by seeing the less obvious. This style of vision will perhaps bring about a delightful result.

Finally, change your mind set. Change is inevitable - in the way events happen, in life, in nature. Sometimes it happens in the blink of the eye and your whole life changes! Be acceptable of change; however you don't have to change everything about you. If you want to create something as part of this change you must believe in it, be proactive, and take responsibility for the choices you have made.

Go on, get out of your own way...let the new YOU take over!